What a nightmare for everyone. Your marriage breaks down, your are more emotionally worn down that ever before. You might be experiencing some of these common effects from separation: insomnia, emotional exhaustion, disrupted routines and general chaos in your daily life.
Meanwhile your children need you. They need their routines, they need your attention, they need guidance and reassurance. This is always important, and even more so when it comes to children and divorce.
How do you do it? Especially if you and your ex are fighting or you ex is undermining everything you think is best for the children?
There is no doubt about it- it is not easy. However, I assure you that there are answers. There are many things that you can learn that will help you to be a wonderful parent for your children. What works well when it comes to children and divorce?
Before you can take the most important coparenting strategies and use them effectively at home you will need to discover your own biggest stumbling block.
Although separation and divorce are naturally difficult, there is something that makes it uniquely difficult for you. That is the part you need to pay attention to.
You might feel frustrated because so much of what is happening is outside of your control.
You might be angry at what your ex is doing or not doing.
I am confident that there is something big that you have the power to transform. When you start to understand what this is and how to transform it you will :
Have more energy
Begin to strengthen, rebuild and recreate yourself
Free yourself from perpetual limitation and negativity
Any time we experience a crisis in our lives it is a turning point. There is an opportunity for positive change but it is necessary to make real changes within ourselves or we can find ourselves stuck in bitterness and resentment. If this happens we will live under the shadows of all the things we have not learned.
In the meantime, I have a free ebook to give to you. In this book you will get:
My top 9 Do’s for parenting during divorce
My top 9 Don’ts for parenting during divorce
Intro into Getting Your Mindset Right
Intro into The Child Friendly Environment
Plus an extra section on Finances and Parenting by financial advisor Helen Baker.
I am here to tell you there is so much more that you can do for your children and yourself. I know that you have reached this moment in your life for a reason. I know that the crisis that you and your family face is both an enormous challenge and an important opportunity.
When it comes to children and divorce there are a lot of do’s and don’ts and you need to know what those are. However there is much more to it. There are major life lessons to learn.
What is happening now is a growing pain. It is all part of growing.
You need to pick yourself up and you need to find the potential waiting for you inside yourself.
You are like a plant that needs to be transplanted. In order to find the rich soil that will nourish you, and the climatic conditions that will help you thrive, you need to tap into the healing power of this time of your life.
If you continue to do the same things that haven’t been working in the past, if you become entrenched in conflict, you will only become worn out and bitter. It is like planting yourself into a desert with rocky soil when you are really a lush tropical plant.
What does this mean in your real life?
It means that you meet life as it is now and allow it to change you for the better. It means that whatever struggles you have with your coparent, that you commit yourself to learning something new and important about how to change what doesn’t work.
Don’t stay stuck in power struggles.
This is not easy to do, but the benefits are worth it.
In fact the power struggles, conflicts and painful emotions can become the keys to unlocking the solutions you need to take your life where you want it to go- for yourself and your children.
Stick with me, I am here to guide you through this.
So, how else can I help you?
First of all, send me your questions. Let me know what you need.
I will continue to send resources to you and the more I know about you the more tailored those will be.
If you think you want my personal assistance, you can book an appointment with me to discuss this.